When Neutrality Becomes Disconnection

Therapists are often taught to be “neutral.” Because psychology is generally understood as a secular social science, the cultural norm has been to respectfully tolerate a client’s spiritual beliefs without actively exploring them unless necessary.

I understand the hesitation. None of us wants to impose our own beliefs or say the wrong thing. But silence can sometimes communicate that an important part of a person’s identity does not belong in the therapy room. When spirituality, intuition, or existential questions are not affirmed in sessions, clients can feel unseen, not because their therapist disagrees, but because an important part of their inner world never enters the conversation.

Many therapists receive little formal training in spirituality or transpersonal psychology. As a result, experiences outside conventional psychological frameworks may be dismissed, pathologized, or viewed as belonging only within the domain of religious or spiritual leaders. While discernment is always essential, psychotherapy also has a responsibility to approach these experiences with curiosity, humility, and clinical competence.

Clients deserve a space where they can bring their whole selves and the experiences that shape how they see the world. This is why I facilitate a monthly discussion & support group for spiritual and intuitive therapists, where we explore research, ethics, resources, and how to provide thoughtful spiritually-inclusive care.